Together: Loneliness, health and what happens when we find connection - Book Review

Together: Loneliness, health and what happens when we find connection 
 
Murthy, V. H. (2020). Wellcome Collection 

“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one. You need one because you are human.” – Jane Howard 

Vivek Murthy’s 2020 book Together: Loneliness, Health and What Happens When We Find Connection provides a unique answer to the question of what health conditions we should be avoiding to stay healthy – and the answer is loneliness. Murthy discovered this while serving as the Surgeon General of the United States in 2014, and studied the phenomenon over the next few years, talking to doctors, scientists, communities and individuals to scope out the scale of the problem.  

After reading this book, I am convinced it IS a problem. Murthy did a great job of explaining clearly why loneliness is a dangerous condition that is often directly responsible for chronic illnesses, diseases and even death. Notable studies include one in 2010 that analysed 148 studies (including 300,000 participants), which showed that people with strong social relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely than people with weak social relationships. Throughout the book Murthy discusses other quantitative and qualitative studies and encounters which show that people’s level of loneliness has significant impacts on their health outcomes in all different environments and cultures. If that wasn’t scary enough, Murthy also lays out how loneliness has evolved into a huge issue, as modern societies prioritise and value individuality and success at the expense of others. He also explains the unavoidable links between loneliness and gender, immigration, cultural differences and the rise of technology. 

However, most of this book is a positive read, full of examples of how people and communities have thrived once they have made small changes to their social or family lives. Dozens of stories of communities coming together to support each other, social groups filling gaps in people’s lives and pilot programmes to address loneliness in vulnerable communities leave you feeling very optimistic.  

Additionally, as the solution to a lot of problems appears to be simply reaching out to your friends and family, you can immediately action the recommendations in the book and feel satisfied that you are improving your physical and mental health.  

Overall, I would recommend this book as it provides the inspiration and tools to easily and immediately improve your quality of life. It also aligns extremely well with the health models promoted by the Mental Health Foundation, notably Te Whare Tapa Whā and the 5 Ways to Wellbeing frameworks. Since finishing this book, I have found myself reaching out to friends more often, and I have a deeper understanding and awareness of the structural issues that contribute to making people unwell. 

Review by Jenny Knight, MHF People and Organisational Development Coordinator 

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